I found this on the blogsite crazysexylife.com and thought it was very useful to anyone who does affirmations regularly or who just attempts them now and then, like me.
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Affirmation: “I am abundant.”
Thought: “Wait, what about all that credit card debt?”
Affirmation: “I am filled with vital energy.”
Thought: “I don’t think so. It took a giant cup of coffee to open my eyes this morning.”
Affirmation: “I give and receive love freely.”
Thought: “Yeah, right.”
Affirmation: “I am happy.”
Thought: “Nope. Not even close.”
Affirmation: “I am fully present in this moment.”
Thought: “What is it that I have to do later today?”
Affirmations are touted to be the wonder cure for manifesting dreams. However, sometimes affirmations feel like you are trying to pull one over on yourself. With great conviction you affirm your deepest intentions and immediately hear a nagging internal voice that says, “Nope, I do not think so.” After weeks of trying to desperately convince yourself of something that is not true, you give in, declare that affirmations don’t work for you, and move onto the next self-help technique.
I’ve been there – in debt, lacking energy, searching for purpose and trying to talk myself into a new life that was clearly not part of my current reality. From the depths of that experience, I learned a few tricks to turn on the power of affirmations. It all starts with feeling.
Words are just that – words. They can mean everything or nothing at all. Affirmations become effective when words entice strong feelings. It is the feeling that carries the energy to manifest change. The goal with any affirmation is to feel how you want to feel when the words have become a reality. If your affirmations feel like a lie, then you are creating the opposite effect than you intended.
Sometimes it can be confusing to know if you really believe in the affirmation that you are using. When you say the affirmation, ask yourself the following two questions to determine how effective your words are.
1. How does my body feel when I make this statement?
Our bodies are a keen feedback mechanism to let us know how we feel. An affirmation that you do not believe will cause your muscles to tighten, or you may feel an uncomfortable sensation in the pit of your stomach.
2. Where do my thoughts go when I say this affirmation?
Do you begin listing all of the reasons that the affirmation is not true for you? Does your mind create barriers to manifesting the affirmation? Your mind will automatically send its reaction to your self-talk into your awareness. By listening to your thoughts, you become clued into what your mind is programmed to believe.
It is important with affirmations to begin by meeting yourself where you are. That means if affirmations feel like a lie, allow that to be your starting point. Personal honesty is the doorway to change.
The opposite of lying is telling the truth. It is the truth that allows positive feelings to accompany words of affirmation. Use the five techniques below to engage the feelings you want to feel when your affirmations are your reality.
1. Add the words “choose,” “willing,” or “potential” to your affirmations.
“I am abundant” may be hard to believe if you have debt. However, “I choose to be abundant” promotes feelings of empowerment and motivation to create change. Similarly, “willing” and “potential” shift affirmations away from a reality that may not exist and toward an attitude that can be cultivated now.
2. The thing you think you want is not what you truly desire.
Four years ago my goal was to pay off all of my credit cards. I asked myself what I really desired by paying off my debt. The answer was love – nothing to do with money. I wanted a stress-free relationship with my husband. The debt was a dark cloud that lingered in our conversations, and I wanted nothing more than to have the freedom of unconditional love back in our household. Love is what I began affirming, and love is what I felt when I said my affirmations. Over the next six months, our income unexpectedly increased and allowed all of the debt to be paid off. To key up your feelings, ask yourself if you are affirming the thing that you truly desire.
3. Get in the zone.
It is a select few who actually focus themselves when they say affirmations. Affirmations are an afterthought as they move through their day. If you give yourself 10 to 15 minutes each day to relax, breathe and visualize your intentions, you will find that it is easier to transport yourself into the life you dream of. It is in this space where your affirmations are true, even if just for 10 minutes in your mind. Research shows that our subconscious does not know the difference between reality and visualization. Your imagination can be the catalyst to sending out the feelings of the experiences you desire to attract.
Just as our bodies are adept at letting us know how we already feel, they are also skilled at shifting our feelings. Grinning from ear-to-ear while you say affirmations will put your mind in a state of joy and possibility where your dreams have the potential to come true.
5. Begin with gratitude.
If you are still having a difficult time convincing yourself of a reality that is only in your mind, begin with looking at your life as is. Make a list of all of the things for which you are currently grateful. Sincere gratitude is an affirmation. Start by recognizing and giving thanks now to attract more things to be thankful for in the future.
Say, repeat and feel your affirmations as true now, in this moment, and one morning you will wake up to a reality that once only existed in your mind.
Danea Horn’s life has been about healing. Managing her health has graced her with insights around how vitally important positive thinking is. As a certified life coach and motivational speaker, Danea is an expert at helping people design and implement strategies for a fulfilling life when facing health challenges.
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