I want to be your Valentine. Actually, I want YOU to be your Valentine!

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You see, today is St. Valentine’s Day and yesterday was International Self Love Day. When I first heard this I sniggered (thanks to the 15 year old girl in me!) but then I started to think about how important it is to love ourselves and to put ourselves first for a change.

Christine Arylo, bestselling author and founder of Self Love Day says:

As a culture we put so much focus and pressure on getting love from others, when the most important relationship in our lives is the one with ourselves – it’s where everything starts. You can be the most confident person in the world, but if you don’t love yourself, you end up creating all kinds of self-sabotaging situations for yourself – toxic or unhappy relationships, being extremely hard on yourself, dishonoring your body, working yourself into exhaustion, giving up on your dreams, putting yourself last, and more.

Read more: http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/inspirationreport/2012/02/happy-self-love-day-with-christine-arylo.html#ixzz2tE0G01Wp

I’ve been guilty of some of those self-sabotaging behaviours. I have been extremely hard on myself, to the extent that I worked myself into a nervous breakdown back in 2008! My life since then has been a gradual process of loving myself back to health – putting myself first, reevaluating my dreams and working towards new dreams and, the one that challenges me most, honouring my body. What about you? Do you indulge in self-sabotaging activities? What about self-love activities??

For me, self-love means spending time in activities that nourish me, so yesterday I had a rare day off college and work and here’s what I did:

  • got up and showered using gorgeous Molton Brown Bath & Shower Gel that I treated myself to a couple of weeks ago
  • brewed a cup of green tea during which I practiced mindfulness meditation for 10 minutes
  • drank my tea and then practiced 10 minutes of yoga stretches with Foxy
  • had granola and yogurt for breakfast while listening to an inspirational podcast
  • walked the wee man (and Foxy!!!) because the weather was  unusually bright and sunny
  • worked on this blog post and planned future blog posts
  • chatted to my Mum for an hour and a half
  • had a delicious tea of homemade burgers thanks to Chef Chris
  • avoided the sugar highs and lows of the last couple of weeks by eating fruit rather than sweets (I’ve been bad lately and eating a LOT of Mars Bars!)
  • avoided the television because news stresses me and the cycle of constant repeats sedates me and this makes me “wired but tired”
  • had an early night and brought a real book rather than my Kindle to bed
  • burned a beautiful candle from my Neal’s Yard Remedies Organic Beauty Sleep Box

As a special Valentine’s Day treat to yourself I’d like you to choose at least one of these activities and try it at least once in the upcoming week. (If you need to borrow Foxy for a walk just let me know ;-)).