I’m sitting on an extremely busy ferry back to Scotland as I write. Apologies to my Irish readers if I didn’t get to see you but I was home for the weekend for one single reason – to celebrate my Mum and Dad’s 50th Wedding Anniversary!
We had a lovely time but it was a challenge for my Sister and me to both be under the same roof AND with our husbands in tow. You see, I love my Sister to bits but, as I get older I realise that I don’t like her all that much. We have nothing in common, except for shared parentage, and there are a lot of personality clashes.
This meant we all had to bite our tongues in order to get along. However, I had a real problem doing that. I would never hide my feelings at the best of times but, on Wednesday, I had a back tooth pulled (after a summer of mouth infections and pain) and I was too sensitive to bite my tongue, either metaphorically or literally. So instead I employed a couple of techniques that I want to share with you in case you find yourself in a similar situation.
- Transcendental Meditation
- “This too shall pass”
Time-out was the first technique I used. It is similar to biting my tongue because it keeps me quiet but has the added benefit of getting me fit. Yes – in this case any time I found myself getting annoyed I walked the dog! I got out of the way and let everyone else do their thing while I had some time out.
Transcendental Meditation is a new technique I have recently acquired. I’ve been learning this since Chris bought the course for my birthday and I found it invaluable both at home and in the Dentist’s chair having my tooth pulled. It involves repeating a mantra to yourself for 20 minutes each morning and evening. As I’ve been learning I’ve found that 10 minutes is about my maximum time limit at the moment and, during the weekend, I just did it for 5 minutes every morning before I faced the rest of my family.
“This too shall pass” is a saying that was repeated by one of my Yoga Teacher Training students during her practical exam in August. She was trying to reassure her students that they wouldn’t have to stay in challenging physical postures forever and, at the same time. was reassuring herself that the exam would soon be over. For some reason, every time I got frustrated or angered, I thought to myself “This too shall pass” and it was a gentler way of biting my tongue.
And now? Now that I’m heading back to my lovely quiet life in Biggar, I’m actually annoyed that we didn’t stay at home for longer and I didn’t get a chance to get to know my Sister and her Husband a little better. The three alternatives to biting my tongue were working well and would’ve continued. Plus, I could have seen more of my friends (i.e. YOU!) as well.